Very good Bob,
Sounds like you have a good handle on what you need. The one thing that I noticed that you did not mention is the apparent existence of some kind of data processing going on in the mic housing. I base that statement on the data line that appears on pin 8 of the mic connector. Since you have both the service manual and the owner's manual, do you know what is going on with the data? I'm wondering if the microphone needs to be replaced with an identical mic assembly or repaired with a coiled 8-conductor with shield cable terminated to a RJ11 plug to keep the existing mic head. That might preclude the use of a third-party mic without that data module for whatever it does (e.g. if it were to cause the radio to be inoperative).
Perhaps somebody else that has this radio, a Radio Shack HTX-212, might chime in here with some additional comments.
Also Bob, out there in your neck of the woods or if you have a favorite online supplier, do you have a place identified where you can get the cable that you need? Then if your retired telephone friend can install the connector, could you do the soldering or would you need your friend to do that? Obviously, if you could get this done locally even with the help of a member from the local ham club, would be ideal and a quicker solution. What do you think, Bob?
73, Dave K4EET