BTDT, some tips -
I had the same issue.
Some background - I was doing APRS a while back in the Midwest, but lost interest, moved, and wasn't necessarily interested in it where I am now. Then one of my kids let her car get stolen. She left her keys (and other items) in her (my) car and it was taken. Since the thieves now had a chip key for another vehicle, they came back a year later and drove another one out of my driveway at 3 AM.
Okay, so now I got interested in APRS.
I'm looking around for equipment. The first time I did it, I used a TNC, a mobile radio, a GPS with NMEA adapter, etc. Too much stuff! So I found a one-way tracking device manufacturer who had an easily concealed device with a little GPS antenna. I made a 2 meter groundplane out of alarm tape on the back window of the car and added a relay to know when the ignition was on and off. All kinds of wonderful things happened while I was away, and now there's an entire world of connectivity for APRS. Sweet!
Except for one thing: I've got an investment in all this hidden hardware and nothing is showing up on the map.
Surely, I was in an area where other people were interested in this stuff. Right? Nope.
I met another guy who messed around with APRS by hanging a whip out his window, and, according to the map, he could hear stations about a mile or so away, but nothing more. I offered to go team up with him to do something better, but he was interested in what he was interested in. So, I pretty much had to make my own IGATE.
Requirements for the IGATE:
Single-purpose 2 meter radio with power supply
Single-purpose 2 meter antenna with cables, grounding, etc.
Single-purpose computer (my "IGATE server")
Single-purpose TNC
An "always up" Internet connection.
All of this stuff is ONLY going to be used to support the IGATE. If you change any of it, it'll take down your ability to push data to (or pull data from) the network. Might as well put it on a high shelf or in a locked, ventilated cabinet and check on it once in a while.
I also got some ancillary stuff, like UPS for the computer equipment and batteries for everything else.
Now for software. There are a few you can use. I used XASTIR and Linux. I also had to generate a key to upload information into the APRS-IS. It was a little more than I bargained for, but hey, it was a great learning experience (and I'm happy that I might be able to help you through it now).
Finally, my stuff was up and I was tracking my cars up and down the map like a James Bond movie. Woot!
Other issues that I had to contend with (these are controversial within the APRS community): 1.2 kpbs is excruciatingly slow and transmissions are asynchronous (ALOHA) with lots of collisions, especially the higher the base antenna. I have several networks of beaconing digipeaters from three surrounding metropolitan areas that are absolute airtime pigs. The trustees weren't interested in conserving airtime and I refused to contribute to the clutter. I put my station into receive only. That seems to be a faux pas within the community, as now my users (I got a user-base most of whom I never met or had any dialogue with) could not use the network as a kind of a bidirectional mobile data terminal (again, 1.2 kbps is not how you want to implement an MDT system). I was only in this for positioning. All of these things are controversial and a matter of debate - which I absolutely want to avoid here - just be aware if you get this far.
One more thing: APRSdroid. If you configure it with your key, you can use the APRS-IS to follow yourself around with your Android cell phone. Yeah, it's cheating, but still.
Best of luck and I'm willing to help you if I can. Use the "send email" feature if you'd like to contact me.