Just an update, I ended up dropping $80 on a BC533N, because I started to realize that the manual squelch that's on the 533N far exceeds the BC325P2's capabilities for railroad applications, and I was right
The dipole is still set up, I swapped a broken rg6 cable, that I accidentally mangled when I weaved it through a ferrite core, for a quad shielded rg6 coax with f connectors, but that didn't work either, so I ordered an rg6 75ohm cable with bnc connectors and now it works great
with the dipole, I also noticed that the fork connectors on the balun and dipole are pretty important for a reason I do not know, tried other ways but they didn't work
I also now scan all the AAR 7-97 channels except for data channels on the 533N
Pretty much perfect now, thanks to the internet for solving problems