I usually only monitor 1 VHF repeater when I leave my house, and the other VFO on my HT is used for APRS.
The repeater that I monitor is one of two that the local club I belong to operates and it sees very little traffic.
My HF buddies whom I meet with for HF QRP ops in parks all use SMS for coordination and passing along DX spots. None of them are regular repeater users.
If I feel the urge to have some repeater like QSOs then I fire up my OpenSpot2 and connect to one of the popular DStar reflectors. There's activity almost all the time there where locally it's sporadic and rare.