and what LCN will the control chnl be, it never seems to come up in LCN Finder?
The control LCN could be any LCN -- you don't want to assume LCN 1. If you weren't aware, for each DMR channel there are two "talkpaths". Two conversations can occur on one frequency. In the case of a Con+ control channel, which is 24/7 constant data on one channel, the other channel is free for voice use. When voice occurs on that second timeslot of the control channel, at that time it will reveal it's LCN. It's probably just going to take time to figure out.
Like I said, you want to monitor during the busiest times, if possible, because then you stand a better chance of LCN Finder finding what it is looking for. If all is said and done and you never determine the LCN of the control channel, you might be able to guess (but don't submit a guess) the LCN based upon what the other LCNs are.
If the system is busy when LCN Finder is running though, it should eventually reveal the LCN once a voice communication occurs on the non-busy timeslot of the control channel frequency.
mike