Here in the central Maryland area, there's a loose 'team' of folks that keeps an eye on the milair activity in the DC metro area. We happen to be quite lucky in that we have a former aero editor for a now-defunct scanner club, 1 or 2 ex pilots and a couple of folk that are otherwise very knowledgeable in the field.
Me, I usually check out stuff when there's a CAP (the Prez runs to Camp David, you can be sure there will be a CAP in place), and when there's unusual amounts of activity. The team usually posts logs and freqs in the Maryland forum. The Delmarva Milcom wiki has the results of almost 2 years of monitoring.
Flydream, I would be quite surprised if you didn't have a few -maybe more than a few - CARMA guys that have similar interests. 73s Mike