To clarify and perhaps make things easier:
Gender of a connector is determined by the center pin, not by threads or locking mechanisms. For example, the common PL-239 [also known as a UHF(M)] that is standard for connecting an antenna to CB's, amateur and land mobile radios has female threads and a male center pin - it is a male connector. The back of the radio has male threads and a female center, making it a female SO-238 [UHF(F)]. The same system applies to SMA, BNC, TNC, N and other connectors.
Most of the handheld scanners (and Garmin dog tracking receivers) I have see have a female chassis connector and require a male SMA antenna connection. The same applies to SMA's on Icom F50-series and most Vertex portable radios. Kenwoods use a SMA male chassis connector. The balance of the Icom portables have a female MXI chassis. Most base/mobile scanners [and a few portables] have a female BNC chassis - the connector with the two ears and a quarter-twist barrel on the antenna or cable, and the antenna or cable has a male center pin. Most USB SDR dongles need a MCX(M) antenna connector.
In a few cases the FCC requires that a device NOT have an easily changed antenna, so the manufacturer will use a 'reverse-polarity' connection. These can be a bit confusing - for instance a SMA RP cable connection looks like a SMA(M) with female threads, but has a female center pin. Don't worry about these for the most part, but if you are trying to connect an external antenna to a FRS radio or wireless access point you may run across them.
Why are there so many variations? Because they can.