I'll be honest I still feel somehow it's a programming thing. I did a test just now with a friend that brought a Feng over and at least on the frequency we tried (ham band 2 meters) and tone. Used (141.3) the Feng acted as expected. It did not receive until I had the correct tone on my transmit radio.
I assume that my using MURS and you using HAM is irrelevant in this testing?
This is driving me crazy. I KNOW this is possible, but despite having a HAM license for 10 years (expired today), if it hadn't been an open-book test, I would have never passed. I am trying to learn this stuff as best I can, but sometimes it's Greek to me.
My plans are to not renew my HAM license and instead get my GMRS license, but I digress.
Note that of the 3 baofengs I have, 2 are brand new, and one (Radio C) is 10 years old. Not sure if that matters.