Nationwide? You won't find them too easily - altho there are various NORAD lists that have been published in MT before, the freqs used by NORAD - and others - vary from area to area. They use a 'pool' of frequencies, and choose some from that pool. You could download the FLIP as given in the military monitoring wiki, or get Grove's directory...but that would still leave you with knowing which freqs are used when. It's better to zero in on a particular area - which you have done. So let's get started...
You can start with the ZNY ARTCC facility
http://www.radioreference.com/modules.php?name=RR&aid=2246
N2NOV's Aero Page (has several Airnav links)
http://www.n2nov.net/nycaero.html
NJ 177th FW ANG wiki page: You will very likely hear them flying up to the Yankee Mil Operations Area (MOA)
http://wiki.radioreference.com/index.php/NJ_ANG_177th_Fighter_Wing
There are some inaccuracies on this next page - mainly due to the fact that the 138mhz freqs he lists as Tankers
we in the Md/DC area have heard F15s here...but some of the freqs listed here are good...
http://hometown.aol.com/jerseymilair/jerseymilair.html
You didn't say anything about what radio/antenna you are using - you will definitely need to get something outside
and in the air - a duckie on a handheld simply won't always cut it.
There doesn't seem to be much interest in milair in the NJ/NYC area - I belong to a couple of milair lists, and
hardly ever see any such logs from that area. Even on the popular ScanCom Yahoo group, which is devoted to that
area. Maybe you can start something
73s Mike