I've had trains pass me when I was at the railroad crossing and my 125AT got squat for anything.
Quite possibly because they didn't say anything.
Train crews usually only talk on the radio to communicate between the train and dispatcher or yardmaster or to communicate between the engineer and conductor/brakeman on the ground while switching. A train may communicate with the dispatcher when the train enters a particular territory controlled by the dispatcher, but there may be no communications after that as the train movement is controlled by the lineside signals. If the train runs into difficulty, they'll call the dispatcher.
One form of communication that you are likely to hear are the talking defect detectors. These are spaced 10 to 20 miles apart. They'll announce that a train is passing the detector and then they'll announce the results after the train has passed. Defect detectors are usually on the "road" channel for the territory where they are located.
You said that you are scanning all of the AAR channels. That may be a mistake. Rail communications can be very short and your scanner may miss them as it's scanning around. The RR database can help you figure out the active channels in your area. Concentrate on scanning just those channels.
Finally, you may need to network with other railfans in your area. You can find them in railroad forums, railroad groups on Facebook, and other online watering holes. You may also want to ask in your state forum here on RadioReference to see if there are other railfans who can help.