Anybody entering or new to the scanning hobby should at the very least be able to make audio patch cables. As you have already found, you can’t always buy the one you need. They are not too difficult to make, only require a soldering iron and some basic hand tools which you may already have. A Digital Volt Meter or DVM with a continuity tester is nice for checking / troubleshooting your work. It dose not have to be a $200 lab instrument, a $20 RS special will work just fine.
Start by getting familiar with the Tip/ring/sleeve terminology:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TRS_connector
I don’t have an R20, but do have several other Icoms, or Scout but, looking at the R20 manual on page 69 and pictures at the Optoelectronics site.. Looks like you will need a stereo jack with the data going to the ring for the R20 and the CIV/scout needs to be a mono jack with data going to the tip.
A few options are:
Buy a stereo patch cable and a mono jack, cut one stereo jack off the cable, use your DVM’s continuity tester to determine which wire goes to the ring and solder it to the tip of the mono jack. Again with the DVM, test which wire goes to the sleeve of the stereo jack and solder it to the sleeve of the mono jack. Test your work with the DVM. There should be no continuity between the tip and sleeve.
Don’t have or want to buy a DVM..
Buy one stereo jack, one mono jack and, cable. Solder one wire to the ring of the stereo jack and the other end of that wire to the tip of the mono jack. The other will connect the sleeve of both jacks.
I see no problem using the digital recorder when you want to use the scout for reacting tuning with the proper cable.
If you want to listen in real time..
Buy a set of in-ear buds and a mono jack. Cut the right bud off. You might be able to tell by looking at the wires which is ground or use that handy DVM to determine which wire goes to the sleeve and solder it to the sleeve of the mono jack. Solder the other wire, from the ring, to the tip of the mono jack. This will give you both audio to the left bud and data from the scout.
Can’t / don’t want to try..
Send me the parts, postage and, tell me what you want. I’d be happy to do it for you. PM me for details.