I maintain that more dongles are better, however, you will always miss something no matter how many you have. Beside possibly not actually having the audio piped through a speaker in your radio room, you as a human can only hear and process so much. I sometimes have as many as eight audio paths talking to me at one time, way too much to deal with.
Not knowing your local system, I can only guess and suggest you use four dongles. Configure two dongles as signal and park one each on the control channels you listed. The other two dongles would be configured as voice. I would not park either of these dongles on an actual voice channel, more on this later. This might not work well if the same talkgroups are carried on the two control channels simultaneously. In this case you might hear the same traffic on both of the receivers at the same time. I have experienced this in my area when I tried to monitor two physical sites with two different control channels that carry the same traffic at the same time. However, if each control channel carries different talkgroup traffic it should work fine. Also, I would pipe the audio from one voice dongle to the left channel of your sound card and the other to the right channel.
Unfortunately the frequency span from the control channels to the voice channels exceed the bandwidth of the dongles so you will have to use the four dongle configuration I described above verses creating multiple VCO on a one or two dongles.
I am not sure what you are describing in this quote:
" I've noticed that if my police department keys up about time the dongle picks up the conversion it's either late or missed the call all together. Is there a better way at setting up the 2 dongles so I don't miss any of the action?"
As AggieCon said, screenshots would help. Post screenshots of both Info and VCO tabs of both receivers.
Now back to parking voice VCOs on voice channels, the strange behavior I think you are describing might be due to parking the voice receiver on a voice channel. That is all I will say until you post the screenshots mentioned above.