Good luck – of course it’s hard to troubleshoot something we can’t even see over the web, but if you keep trying you should get it!
As you noted before, official and other trustworthy references (not AI) show pin 9 as KEYFAIL (aka data), and pin 5 as GND. I recommend focusing efforts on that, and that is what my own notes say.
There are also various eBay adapters for as cheap as $30 should you prefer to get something pre-made (I cannot vouch for them).
Also make sure your UCM is properly seated, visible in service mode, etc, and that you are using the correct GCAI port (head if dash mount, TIB if remote mount).