A while back up the topic signal to noise was mentioned, and overlooked - it should have said SIGNAL TO NOISE it's that important.
You have collected so many bits and pieces of the science but not quite put them into orders that make sense, that's all.
Signal strength on a meter is simply an indication of relative signal strength. Few meters have any real accuracy now they are digital - they might be 4 or 5 steps top to bottom, and the point they change just picked randomly. They also work differently depending where in the receiver they take their drive from. Imagine an older 25KHz radio signal from maybe an old ham radio from 40 years ago. If you listen to this on a modern radio it's often loud and distorted to a degree - it can even be easier to hear, because the signal to noise appears better, but much of this is due to the receiver design. So a weaker 25KHz channel signal might be better subjectively than a 12.5KHz stronger one. Meters tell you one thing, your ears something else. When doing antenna tests the critical thing is simply relative differences. Few people can measure the signal in microvolts - which would really mean something. One useful thing are antenna switches and variable attenuators, especially ones that have dB markings. You can switch between antennas and then adjust the attenuator so they sound and display on the meter the same reading. You then have a real value for how much better or worse one antenna is to the other. Antenna X is 2.5dB lower than the other. Some people even do it the other way - add attenuation so you cannot hear a signal, then slowly reduce the attenuation until it becomes distinct, with a particular type of noise - anything you can really determine properly. turn the knob up until you can just detect it - then make a note of that setting and do it again on the other and see the difference. As dB's are ratios, your results mean something - one is XdB better than the other. You can use this to check the loss in antenna feeder, if it's swappable. Do the test, record the result and then swap and repeat.
I have a list of permanently transmitting antennas in the district in the VHF and UHF bands that can be heard here. On top of that, I have the local airfields, and harbour stations - All plotted on a single receiver's meter. that way I can compare properly, and often get very odd results. With two different radios, even identical models, it doesn't work, because they are not calibrated together. If you get a ladder out, swap a cable or antenna, then compare it - your memory wrecks the results.