Found it on a site I occasionally use to find DV connectors, bottom left single key, MUSB-A4-S-RA-SMT-SK.
http://www.adam-tech.com/2009/pdf/page_131.pdf
Also here, third section down.
USB connector Manufacturer -- WHOLLY COMPANY LTD. is a leading supplier and exporter of USB connector in Taiwan, Asia
Its a single key Mini USB and you can find a few results on google by looking with that keyword.
Thought this might be something you might want to look into to help with making the unit smaller and easier connectivity between the boards, scanner and remote head.
As you mentioned in your youtube video, I don't think the Uniden data connector is as proprietary as you may think. I have found that a small $10 digital camera I have uses the same data connector, I have taken a few pictures of it and my 396T to give you a bit of a comparison. I couldn't find the USB cable that came with the camera, but I have pictured my Uniden serial data cable and it does plug into the connector on the camera. Now I would have no clue where to find them, but they are out there. A couple of the pictures are a bit blurry, that's because it is next to impossible for me to take close up pictures that small with my simple digital camera (not the one pictured), a good example of what I'm dealing with is the clothes pin I'm using as a stand in the one picture, I need to get my hands on a good DSLR.
OT Icom's mobile ham transceivers have a bad habit of forcing the use of multiple cable for remote operation. 1 for the head, 1 for the mic, 1 for speaker.
fantastic work