For price and ease of installation going crossband is the way to go. That being said Pyramid and Vertex both make pre-selectors, filters, etc which will allow in-band repeating from your vehicle. If its done with success on a crown victoria you shouldnt have an issue on a pumper or other fire apparatus. 1 antenna on the trunk and the other on a fender bracket near the hood, works great as long as you have the proper filters etc
Its all in how much money you have. We just got a quote from a reputable dealer for around 2k for an in-band VHF-VHF system for our supervisor vehicle. This was using a Pyramid SVR-200v with filters and pre-selectors, and also included a new mobile radio with all the proper cables programming antennas etc
The question you have to ask yourself is what are the other agencies that you work with using in terms of frequency, is everyone in your area using VHF, are some on UHF or 800. The Missouri Highway Patrol is still using lowband and they use a VHF extender in their cars. Their troopers carry VHF-HI HT1250's. This works fine because most agencies in Missouri are still using VHF-HI. So if their mobile radio fails (or they get out of range) they can still talk to other agencies from their portable (they also have VHF-Hi mobiles installed as well but thats besides the point). They have the advantage of interop without the need for having multiple portable radios.
As far as anyone actually believing "the logic will handle multiple vehicles on scene" that just isn't true all the time. Frequently we get told by dispatch "multiple extenders keying up" or "we can't copy you there is interferance" because the logic in fact won't "always" handle multiple extenders being turn on in close proximity to one another. Does it happen all the time, no, but it does happen and it completely defeats your communication until the "logic" figures it out, or someone goes car to car turning off the extenders.
Either way you can do in-band or out of band and still have good success. Some agencies are also using the "stealth" or "phantom" antennas for their extender. They do provide a little more selectivity in the event you are using an in-band repeater.