Maybe they are only insulting to you because you are insulting to them. You've had more than your share of rants about how things are not as you want them to be, or as you expect them to be, or even demand them to be.
Regardless, insulting them is likely not going to be productive, and is rather hypocritical don't ya think?
As someone who tries to help anyone, regardless of model fandom, maybe the above advice might help.